OK, so I'm a tad behind on my people skills.

Earlier tonight I rescued a little rain spider (probably a male, otherwise a baby) that only had four legs left to its body, two to each side of it.

In the shower now, that got me thinking about life.

Our lives very much resemble those of spiders:  as we grow, we go through different and unique stages in our lives.  I want to smack anyone I hear speaking of a "normal" life or "normal" experiences.  The only "normal" about anyone's life, from one person to the next, is that we get through these different stages the same way a spider moults - it sheds the old exoskeleton, the broken and damaged one, and moves to the next.

This even goes for those poor people working desk or call centre jobs - you have precisely the same job and duties as the person in the next cubicle - hells, you might even have your one dog and 2.4 children - but your thoughts, dreams and ides are yours and yours alone.

The same way spiders lose legs and body hair for defence, we tend to cut out or let go of those situations that  hurt us or cause us emotional harm.  This can even be likened to the people who drain us, what we call "emotional vampires":  we let them go because they damage us.  They make up those body hairs we release for defence.

The enterprising members of our race build their webs and maintain them as part of their plans and dreams.  others also build webs, but then wait for something to walk into them.  Yet other have given up fixed webs in favour of going out into the big, wide world and looking for "nourishment" - spiders do the same.  Orb-weavers build their big-ass webs every night, or every few nights, and maintain them, keeping track of the damage they may pick up and replacing them often to keep them sticky.  Funnel spiders build their webs in the short grasses in the veld and wait for something to walk into them, not replacing their webs nor maintaining them because they see no need to.  Jumping spiders, among my favourites, roam our houses and our gardens looking for their prey.

Basically, we aren't really so different, in our day-to-day lives, as the spiders so many of us so (VERY WRONGLY) squash or kill with Doom or Baygon.  We build our webs or roam through our lives, but we all go and look for dreams where our biology sends us.

The biggest thing is, we're human; we can change our "biology".